When you’v been back stabbed – you have every right to feel angry and want to lash out at this friend, colleague, or acquaintance.
If you think this is a one off time that this person is or has back stabbed you, then yes confront this person, but be careful when you do it.
Stay calm and listen to what they have to say.
They may be genuine and have spoken out about you to somebody else because they were feeling hurt or let down by you in some way.
BUT – If you are not sure whether this person is a true back stabber in general see How To Identify A back Stabber
If you feel this person is a definite back stabber type – read on.
No doubt you are feeling betrayed, hurt or even humiliated – But…
While confronting the back stabber may seem like a good idea, and a good way for you to release how you feel, doing so is likely to have reverse effects that you may not have thought of.
Most back stabbers are unhappy people. They thrive on having something on you, so they can back stab you with it.
By lashing out at a back stabber,
You are giving them the very thing they want…
POWER and A Reason to Back Stab you Again
The best course of action is to ignore it. Don’t let the back stabber know it has gotten to you.
By doing this you may be worried other people will believe what the back stabber is saying about you.
Your true friends won’t believe what is being said about you. Anyone that does believe the lies or doesn’t let you explain your side, is not worth knowing!
Try not to worry about the people that you don’t know so well believing the back stabber as – The chances are high that this back stabbing person is known for their back stabbing.
If not, they will soon be known for it as you are NOT likely to be the only person they are, or have back stabbed.
Anyway – before too long people will have forgotten about the lies that were said about you, and will have moved on to the next thing going on.
As hurt as you may still be feeling, just be you and others will soon realize who the real you is.
In the meantime – Distance yourself from the back stabber and don’t engage in any conversations with them unless you absolutely have to. For example if the back stabber is in your place of employment, you may have to correspond with them from time to time.
CAUTION
If the back stabbing has got to a point that it is…
Bordering on harassment or could cause physical harm to you or somebody else
Seek help from authorities.
Article written by Wen Dee
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